Managing romantic relationships and life direction can often be challenging; especially when the two don’t follow the same time line. I know this first hand because my high school sweetheart and I had to decide if what we had was worth maintaining across long distance while we explored our passions at different universities. We, like many optimistic couples, decided to take the plunge and we learned very quickly that we needed to discover the social platforms to support our distance and to keep us engaged.
screen freezing but after an hour or two the heat on your ear can be unbearable. Plus, it’s fun to use both so we never get into a routine. There are pros and cons to each method but the result is basically the same. Clear communication is the name of the game.
To keep the relationship light and make an attempt at the couple’s ‘busy work’ that the LDR lacks it’s a good idea to develop a hobby together or play a game. My fiancé and I have tried player versus player apps that we can play together through the day. We’ve found some that entertain us for a while but none that stay on our radar for long. Another fun activity can be virtual movie night where you Skype together and press play on Netflix at the same time. This gives a couple the opportunity to fulfill the need for basic chatter without running each other’s ears off.
Long distance is hard, but far from impossible. It comes down to each member of the relationship choosing to put in the work to commit to maintaining happiness. Living in the digital age makes preserving closeness over geographic distance much easier but we still have a long way to go.
This is an important area that’s worth investigating and developing because couples need, and deserve, a communication platform specifically to compensate for long distance relationship needs.
Long distance couples will always have a challenge until we can create a virtual space that provides the same closeness as in-person communication. Recently I have been reading things about a tech startup, called Kiiroo that would actually let you touch your partner over the internet. I am very eager to see how they will approach the transmission of the experience of passion and intimacy over an inanimate structure like the world wide web. I might be skeptical about new technologies but I believe that someday we will arrive there. For now I’m willing to fight through the occasional struggles because I know that my future husband is worth it and we’ll be back together, permanently, so soon.
Texting kept us in the loop together easily with the convenience of a quick send on the go. It’s perfect for us to send off a short funny moment during the day and to plan our next longer chat. However, more than once we’ve gotten ourselves into a little hot water because written words, especially short bursts of them, can be read in too many different inflections. Suddenly a few tosses back and forth became a heated argument in one mind and a confusing banter in the other. When you don’t have a face to face interaction any time soon to clear up discrepancies the mind can wander.The key is to be strong enough in your relationship to ignore the doubts or worries and trust the good things until you have time to settle down, talk things out, and clear up the confusion.
For us, long distance has strengthened trust and our personal sense of independence because when you don’t have the other person to lean on you learn to be stronger in yourself. Now, that doesn’t mean that loneliness isn’t blinding sometimes. When I need to see his face Skype is our go-to application. There’s something really powerful about making eye contact and knowing that if one of us is a little distracted we can at least see why. Direct phone calls are more consistent with no internet lags and To keep the relationship light and make an attempt at the couple’s ‘busy work’ that the LDR lacks it’s a good idea to develop a hobby together or play a game. My fiancé and I have tried player versus player apps that we can play together through the day. We’ve found some that entertain us for a while but none that stay on our radar for long. Another fun activity can be virtual movie night where you Skype together and press play on Netflix at the same time. This gives a couple the opportunity to fulfill the need for basic chatter without running each other’s ears off.
This is an important area that’s worth investigating and developing because couples need, and deserve, a communication platform specifically to compensate for long distance relationship needs.
Long distance couples will always have a challenge until we can create a virtual space that provides the same closeness as in-person communication. Recently I have been reading things about a tech startup, called Kiiroo that would actually let you touch your partner over the internet. I am very eager to see how they will approach the transmission of the experience of passion and intimacy over an inanimate structure like the world wide web. I might be skeptical about new technologies but I believe that someday we will arrive there. For now I’m willing to fight through the occasional struggles because I know that my future husband is worth it and we’ll be back together, permanently, so soon.
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